The Blame Game

I was fifteen when it happen no understaning or knowledge of why this happen too me. I can still remember the promise made to me as if it was yesterday. The laugh, smile, the gentle ways of trying to stay calm and handle allmy qustion. Who is to blame for he lost of my brother??
I didn't know that I was grieving untl I realize the smell that over took my room lookin around trying to find the source when the whole while it was coming from me. I blame my brother for the promise he was unable to keep, my mother for not making him stay home, my family for the cause of his death. I didn't understand that" God needed another angel "or "it was his time to go,"
I played the blame game until I didn't have any one else to blame not even myself... I know now there's no-one to blame life akes us through many things and thisis one where I had to seek answer to make sense of my loss to GOD, he answered my call... I'm at peace with the many lives and love-ones that I've lost through-out time

What Can Be Said???

Many times we just take a glimpse at what we assume that may be happen some where other than here( where you are) and keep going... what can be said about the many lives, homes, and businesses that have been destroyed here (Haiti)... I saw so many different ways a person has grieved as individuals as well as within groups so sad ... however, what surprise me most was that of the action of seeing a newscaster (Anderson Cooper), actually stop what he was doing to help a child was touching... many had given comments on this I would like to know is there every a time to just allow a person to grieve in privacy without the media around to allow a period of sorrow

How Long is too Long to Grieve???

Wow!

I know many are thinking what does she many about putting atime period on someones feeling for a lost love one...

I was told that expressing my thoughts or feelings on the loss of love ones through here could help. They say a male/female and age plays apart into how a person grieves for someone... I think it's how we feel or felt for the person in general; however, I'm no doctor just someone who loss many loves ones over the years. I still sometimes find myself just laughing or feeling the present of that person... I say there's no time limited you put on these emotions, we have- as a woman.. though many would say "women always wear their hearts on their sleeves" now I know at times mines are very long compared to others... Once I turn to ask my oldest brother a question and forgot there would be no more advice or help with a drawing from him; he gone and have been for over many years so... however he is still and always will be within my heart... I was watching the news on Haiti and just reflect on him I feel the loss for those that are suffering... I would love to here how others feel on the limit on how long is too long to grieve over a loss love one